5 tips for improving your sex life if you have been in a relationship for more than 10 years

5 tips for improving your sex life if you have been in a relationship for more than 10 years

“Envious and admiring looks are not the only thing you and your partner will have to face if you have been in a relationship for 5–10 years or longer,” says Svetlana Punte, owner of the SEX GURU agency. For the fifth year already, her agency, in cooperation with the international training centre «СЕКС.РФ», has been organising practical “adult training sessions” in Latvia and abroad.

“Many people who have been in a relationship for a long time truly value and love each other, yet they do not have good sex,” notes Jelena Bekmane, psychologist, sexologist and professional sex coach. “Or they do have sex, but rarely: only one partner takes the initiative, forcing the other partner to have sex.

I certainly do not want you to think that every marriage that lasts many years is boring or monotonous. However, you must admit that almost no one dares to tell their husband or wife that there are problems with their sex life. You may like or dislike your partner, they may be more or less suitable for you, but if you have several years of life together, a family, children and a routine to which you are accustomed behind you, only very few people would dare to risk all that “for the sake of good sex”.

To add variety specifically to the lives of such couples, as well as to those of people who are open to “adult” experiments and reflections on sex, I will offer several unconventional tips. Do not rush to close this article; read these ideas. Perhaps one of them will be useful to you.

Tip No. 1: Invite a third person

Some of you may think: “That is not for us.” Do not jump to conclusions. The third partner does not necessarily have to be real. We are talking about sexual fantasies—both yours and your partner’s.

You have every right to share your fantasies, as long as they remain fantasies. If you like actress Scarlett Johansson or the neighbour in the flat on your floor—believe me, that is really nothing rare or special. Try to make good use of platonic feelings to improve your sex life.

There is no doubt that this approach presupposes honesty, openness and acceptance of your partner as they are, with all their unusual desires, from the very beginning. The real challenge is finding the courage to talk about what you have always kept silent about. Yet these very “adult games” are a “legal” way to remain faithful while adding a little humour and spice to your relationship. Anything will do: distinctive clothing, changing your image for a while, an invented name in bed or arousing phrases during sex.

Ignite the fire and colour your sensations with the help of your own fantasies!

Tip No. 2: Go on holiday separately

Yes, separately. No one says that your shared family values are not important. However, it is quite possible that, in addition to wishes and dreams connected with your family, you also have your own individual ones.